Sunday, February 20, 2011

This is What I Know...

I have been so blessed to have made so many great friends for the short time I have been blogging. I am grateful for all your kindness and words of encouragement. It makes blogging that more fun:)
Saturday night as I was preparing my lesson for my Sunday School Class (a bunch of adorable 6 year olds), I came across this talk I thought I would share it.
There has been a lot of not so exciting things that me and the hubby have been going through, with going through all the headache and not being able to have children. I have always wanted to be a mom from the time I was little. My husband and I have been married for about 7 years with no luck of children. When I first found out that we would have a hard time starting a family, I was upset. I felt like the world was out to get me with the thing that I wanted most in life. It was really hard for me to watch my friends announce they were expecting and put on a "smile" and act like it was the best thing I have heard. Yes, I was really excited for them but it just reminded me that... I'm not. There have been many days where I cried too many tears and became a little "jealous" of others and wonder "why me". With trials comes blessings, even though this trial hasn't been the one I ever wanted to go through, it has taught me a lot. It has made my faith in Christ grow and has brought me and my husband closer together. I know that if I keep strong in my faith, we will eventually have a little family.
I usually keep my personal life "personal" but I really felt inspired to share a little bit of my experience.
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  1. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. This is a trial that is so difficult to deal with. It is near and dear to my heart. My older sister is almost 36 and after being married and trying for 6 years she was finally blessed with her first baby. I hope and pray that you will be blessed with a sweet bundle of joy. And in the meantime I pray that the Lord will bless you with peace. I know that He LOVES you. Lots of love- Glora

  2. I didn't have my little girl until I was 35. I didn't think I would ever have a child either. I have no doubt you will have your family. You'll be in my prayers too. HUGS!

  3. Thank you for sharing, my mom had a hard time getting pregnant as well, my parents were married 12 years before they had my sister and then I was a surprise 4 years later. Just remember God has a plan for all of us, we just don't always know what it is yet. - Melanie

  4. Praying for you Kassidy!! I loved this message. Remember that God's timing doesn't always match our own. You will get what you want and need!! I know a couple that prayed seven years for a baby and God placed her with that couple eventually. Don't stop praying, and when you do, thank God for all of your blessings. It will happen! Thinking of you, my friend!! :)

  5. Oh Kassidy, thank you for sharing this special and private part of your life with us! I know that you will get the family that you wish for. This makes the fact that you are on my team that celebrates family so very special. I know that you share the same passion for family that I do. I will always be thankful to blogging for helping me find such a great new friend :o)

  6. thank you for sharing sucha personal part of your life! just wanna say tho that one friend of mine was told she may never be able to carry her own child to term - only to have three kids less than 2y apart each! another friend was told she would need help gettin pregnant for her second child too - only to have the second one less than 2y later! all hope is not lost!you will def be in my prayers.

  7. Thank You for sharing that beautiful message with us on this beautiful Sunday. We will pray for you on this journey you are going through and we hope that someday your prayers will be answered. TFS!! Take Care!! Jennie

  8. what a wonderful message. I see that we all agree that we are grateful for you and for sharing such a private matter with us...and trusting us with it. I know those days when you have to "smile" and be happy. It took 6 years to get our second child, I thought I was meant to have only one child. I was fine with it, I always wanted a second. However like someone else stated our timing is not always the same as God's (hard lesson for me now and then).

    I now know why it took 6 years to get pregnant with our second child. Right around the time we started tell people (May 2007) we learned that my brother was diagnosed for the 3rd time with lung cancer. Before we knew of this tragic news, my husband and I had already decided that he and his wife would be our child's God Parents and that if we had a boy we'd name him after my brother. My brother passed away on May 6, 2010 and every day our 3 yrs old son reminds us of all those funny and wonderful things we loved so much about my brother. I do believe that our second child was given to us to always remember my brother and for him to carry on his legacy. My brother and sister-in-law never had children of their own. They loved being the favorite aunt and uncle. I feel like Ryan Arthur, will always carry on my brother Arthur's name with PRIDE.

    Love to you!!! I know you won't loss faith in what you want and your faith is strong to get you through this.

    Cindy Stark (fan in AZ)

  9. Kassidy,
    Thanks for sharing this with us. I was never able to have children and then lost my husband to a brain tumor in 2001. God work in mysterious ways. I put my trust in my religion and there is a reason for everything. I believe that it was just not suppose to happen for me. I hope that it can happen for you. God has graced me with other things after my losses. I hope and wish you the best for the future.
    I follow you blog and love you work............

  10. That was a wonderful message....and Kassidy, never, ever stop believing in your dreams. I love that you shared this--it is part of who you are.
    Maria :)

  11. Lean not on your own understanding...everything happens in His time. Prayers and Blessings to you and your husband.

  12. Im very sorry you're having to deal with this.. but very glad that you can see a silver lining somewhere :). I thought that I was only going to have one baby (it was a pretty complicated pregnancy) and I had always wanted two.. but I excepted that and my husband and I had started to talk adoption. Its such a great option to have.. i know its not the same and i knew my husband felt that way. But i feel like a child is a child.. no matter whos it is or how old it is.. every child deserves a good home and lots of love. The thing I always thought of when thinking I couldnt have any more was.. "how come all these people that dont even want kids.. or dont treat them right (abuse, drug use etc.) can have kids and the people that really want and deserve them can't.. it just doesn't seem fair) and then I decided thats why it's a good option to adopt.

    None the less... many people that have a hard time having children still have them. There are other options.. fertility treatments and all that, if you want to go that rout. But I too believe that your faith in God will help you and your husband get the family you've always dreamed of. It might take a little more time than you wanted it to.. but that will only make them that much more special and nothing is better than realising how blessed you are. Many people take that for granted and you know that you wont! :)

    I'll keep you in my prayers :) good things happen to thoughs who wait :D

  13. Kassidy, I am sooo sorry you are going through this, I just know that you will get that family you want....I am so happy to have met you(in this bloggin world) you are sooo sweet. so know that my prayers are yours, as your prayers have helped me....
    I was told at age 17 I would not have children, at age 22 I proved them wrong, my baby just turned 18,
    I am here for your Kassidy, anytime you need to talk......

  14. Kassidy ~

    I know that you will be blessed with a family. God has a plan and He will reveal it in His own time. It may not be a "traditional" family, but it will be the one that is meant for you and your husband.

    I had an emergency hysterectomy at the age of 22; the surgery took almost 5 hours and I died on the table and was revived. In the midst of all my pain, tears and "why me, Lord" pleas, He had a plan. Something bigger than my small plan.

    Two years later, in 1990, I became the adoptive mother of a sibling group of three children - two girls, ages 8 and 6 and their little brother, age 4. These kiddos had been seriously abused and neglected -- let's just say the things done to these poor kids would make you want to find a gun and start eliminating sex offenders/predators. They had been in foster care for almost 3 1/2 years -- in 17 different homes. They were malnourished, unloved and didn't trust a soul.

    A psychiatrist told me that they would never graduate from High School with a standard diploma due to their disabilities and developmental delays. They did -- every last one of them.

    I loved them unconditionally when no one ever had before; I alwasy told them they could do anything they set their minds to; and I told them that yes, life had dealt them some crap -- but that was the past and this was the present. And the present is a gift for you to do with as you please. It can be good or it can be bad -- up to you.

    In 2004, I was given the opportunity to adopt an infant. My sweet Demi is now almost 7 and is at the opposite end of the learning spectrum. She is gifted == way too smart! The things this child comes up with and figures out!

    People always comment how lucky my kids are to have been adopted by me. My response has always been -- "No, I'm the lucky one!" And I mean that with all my heart. Did I ever think I would raise four kids -- no. But God did.

    It's the hardest thing I've ever loved to do. Adopting older children isn't for the faith of heart -- it's hard. But with a great support system and a lot of prayer I've found you can do anything.

    Please know that you are not alone. There are lots of us out there who have been through or are going through what you are. I'll be lifting you up in prayer. Stay strong and don't lose faith.


    ~ Jen

  15. I did not have my first child until I was 30 and then 32, I have been blessed, but do remember you may not have "natural" children, but you have those wonderful 6 year olds, andyou are ble ssed to have a wonderful husband. God has a plan and he may want you to adopt or he may bless you in another way. Keep the faith!

  16. I too know something of your struggles. There is nothing I have ever wanted more than to be a mother. After being told that there was nothing medicine could do for us other than in vitro fertilization, we have been blessed with three children - all a miracle, and all conceived without in vitro.

    I understand the pain of wondering why such a righteous desire is being delayed, or withheld. All I can say is that the Lord is mindful of you, and the blessings will come - in His time.

  17. What a beautiful message. As a member of the church this is something I needed to be reminded of to. Thank you for sharing this personal part of your life with us. I know that it couldnt have been easy for you. But I do know that Heavenly Father has a plan for you.

    Lisa Scrappingpinklady